Actually i hate whining...i see it as a form of weakness but if i really look on the other side of it, i guess it's just simply that i never had anyone to whine to. I've always walked down my path of life spiritually alone although someone physically is there. I have always trained myself to be strong, stronger than what the definition of strong means to me.
We have a sense of instinct built in us for everything, if we were to fall, we have a mechanism in our body and mind to protect our head first, if we feel heat touching any part of body we will run away from it. Therefore running away from something is an instinct and for me strength and weakness are on the same boat. Should we please others before we please ourselves...it's up to you.
Yesterday an old comrade passed away of a heart attack. He was not more than 30 years old. The night before, he went to play futsal or street soccer. Dropped down and was pronounce dead of heart attack. One thing to share on this is between theory and practical. Upon knowing this, i told most of the people that i assumed would come to the funeral to be aware of what to do. Don't talk bullshit, don't waste time and just think about life and death.
Did you know by reading the Quran for 3 days or a week or a month or maybe more contributed tot he deceased, the 'hikmah' would never reach the deceased. It is said and written that the only things that can help the deceased in the after life is such as donation (sedekah jariah), payers by anak yang soleh and one other thing that i forgot. the Al Quran is brought down to us for the use of the living. To be guide us through life and to be the saviour and to help us prepare for after life.
I did say this while waiting for the deceased to arrive, it's kinda harsh but they need to know. I didn't guide them all these time in work to forget about religion. And most of them who were interested to attend the Tahlil later on that night seems to be expecting a rather nice reunion. And some of them doesn't know the manner of visiting the deceased, some spoke of how he smoked too much, how he had a hot spanish girlfriend and how has a child out of wed lock.
Why should we worry about the people who have left this world, we should be a worry about us who have a lot more to face, a lot more deeds to gain and a lot more sins to make...lets ponder on that
